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Two Questions To Ask Yourself If You Can’t Focus


Everyone could do with being a bit more energetic, a bit more focused, and a bit more alert and those people who seem to have that superhuman quality of operating at 110% can’t be like that all the time, can they? Well, they can’t, but it has taken them a lot of training and mental preparation to get to that point. We seem to think that we’re either born with a good brain or we’re not, but the fact of the matter is that, however old we are, we can still learn new things, and as studies have shown, we can actually increase the “neuroplasticity” in our brains. So if you’re doing some studying or you’re trying to learn a new language, here are two things to bear in mind.

Are You Healthy?

The big problem in achieving focus and attention can often be found in our diet. We may be eating a lot of the things that aren’t doing our brain any favors, like sugar. And not eating enough of the things our brain needs to thrive, like omega 3 rich foods, and healthy fats. Think of your brain like a car, if you’re putting the wrong fuel in it, how can you expect it to function at its optimum level? After you’ve made some changes to your diet, look at supplements. There are plenty of “nootropics” that are great if you have to cram for an exam or need to do a long and boring task. Look at this Neuro Clarity review if you’re thinking about supplementing your brain. But be sure to look at the potential side effects of these smart drugs. A lot of them aren’t a replacement for a good diet, but the right supplement can really work wonders for you.



Are You Stressed?

Sometimes it’s a very simple reason that we can’t focus. We’re operating at such a high level of anxiety for so long, that we have no idea what a “normal” level of focus is. We end up operating in this brain fog that clouds our judgments and makes us constantly scatterbrained. Stimulation is a good and bad thing, too little stimulation and we are bored. Too much, and we are prone to anxiety. Think about how your mind works. If you spend a lot of time with an internal dialog and overthink everything, it’s like that person who is constantly jutting their leg or paces nervously. That nervous energy is going to leave them tired in one way or another, and if you constantly overanalyze everything, it’s going to leave you “brain tired.” Combatting this isn’t an overnight job, but it’s practice. From mindfulness to effective breathing exercises, to positive self-talk, there are so many options for you to try to keep your attention in one place. And it is something that you can start to address now by making simple changes. Turn off your phone at night, or get some proper sleep, whatever may work. Research into what methods will work for you. We’re all different, but we all lose focus or feel distracted sometimes. Take comfort in that.

How do you take care of yourself if you’re feeling unhealthy or stressed? Let me know! 🙂

Thanks so much for reading, as always <3

Xoxo, Rae

May 27, 2017

What Life After College Is Really Like?


If you’re reading this then we can only presume you are gearing up to graduate. You’ve ordered your gown and you’re only days away from throwing your cap in the air (read: staging an Instagram snap of you throwing your cap in the air). It’s an epic feeling. You have graduated college. You’re buzzing with pride, glee and, quite possibly amazement.

However, you can also sense another emotion bubbling away under the surface, one that you don’t recognise, and that is anxiety. Yup. You’re about to enter the big bad world of adulthood. But in order to give you a padded landing, we have come up with some truths about what real world is really like.

Ignore What Grumpy People Say

Look, we’re not going to pretend that the real world is all strawberry milkshakes and unicorn rides on the beach. It isn’t. However, it can be fun if you make it fun. Invariably you are going to meet grumpy people who despise their life and that their job and believe they work five days a week just to enjoy the next two. Ignore these people. Your job can be fun, it can be meaningful and your weekdays can matter. It is an attitude decision you make.

The Paperwork Side Of It Sucks

You really have to stay on top of it, though, trust us. There will be things like taxes, 401K enrollments, dealing with private student loans that will help you consolidate your college debt, healthcare forms, paying rent on a tiny apartment, Netflix emails about how the monthly fee has gone up again and just about everything else you never knew existed. Well, it exists. So get on top of it early so that it becomes manageable.

Don’t Make Comparisons

Everyone that graduates college will have that one friend who moves to New York or Chicago or LA and lands the best job ever, making the whole job search seem a doddle. You will pretend you are mega proud of them – while actually hating them a bit – because within a month they have started making more money than both of your parents combined and you are forced to watch this through the stained glass of social media. Don’t. Don’t make comparisons. Just live your life as best as possible.

You Will Be Labelled Unfairly

You are part of the Millennial Generation, being labelled unfairly is part of it. You don’t have to put up with it, though. Those that label you in this way invariably need you. These people are just a little scared and intimidated, that’s all. They haven’t heard of the latest tech trends like Yammer and they admire your desire to give your life meaning. So be humble, ask lots of questions, be willing to learn and be willing to help. You don’t know everything, so don’t act like you do; it will sting you.

Your Major Will Not Matter

This is a realisation that shocks most recent graduates who end up getting a job that has absolutely nothing to do with their college degree and that life skills are far more important. Try not to worry about this too much, though. You are going to be in employment for around 40 years. That means you will have plenty of time to cement your career and degree in holy matrimony, or indeed find out you actually quite like the divorce and that your degree was almost entirely pointless.

I hope you enjoyed the post!

Thanks so much for reading, as always <3

Xoxo, Rae

May 25, 2017

Figuring Out Your Future


When you’re in that strange place between childhood and adulthood, it can feel like the future is this huge weight that’s constantly pressing down on you. Everyone around you seems to be constantly telling you that you should be thinking about what you want to do with your life, as though now is the only time that you can make that kind of decision. It can often feel completely and utterly overwhelming to the point that it’s almost impossible to actually make any decisions. The best thing to try and combat that feeling is to break things down so that it doesn’t seem quite so all-encompassing and scary. Here are a few things to remember when you’re trying to figure out what to do next.

Follow what you’re passionate about


If you want to figure out what to do with your life, then one of the very best places to start is with your passions. What do you really love to do? Think about your hobbies and interests. While parents and teachers might try to tell you that they are a distraction from more important things like school or college, your hobbies can actually tell you a lot about the kinds of careers that might make you happy. Do you spend every weekend playing sports with your friends and know everything there is no know about your favorite sport? Well, then there’s a good chance that you’d enjoy something in that direction. Even if you’re not playing professionally, there are hundreds of careers available for people with a knowledge and passion for sports of any sort.

Think about stepping stones

One of the biggest mistakes that a lot of kids make is that they assume that whatever decision they make now is going to have to be the thing that they stick with forever. This is far from the truth. Plenty of things that you do can be stepping stones towards what you really want. You might not be in a position to start the career that you really want because you don’t have the right amount of experience, but things like volunteering and internships can give you that experience so that you can go into that career further down the road. Thinking of things in terms of where they are taking you in life, rather than as destinations in and of themselves, is a great way to avoid letting the future seem so big and intimidating.

It’s okay not to know


Here’s the big secret that a lot of people won’t tell you: no one really knows what they want to be when they grow up. Even so-called “grown-ups.” If your teachers and parents were really honest, they’d probably tell you that they are just a filled with uncertainty and confusion as you are. There is nothing wrong with feeling like you don’t have a clear direction to follow. Sometimes you have to try a bunch of things and see what sticks. Life is long, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t take your time and figure out what you want to do at your own pace.

I hope you enjoyed the post! Do you think about your future a lot? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Let me know in the comments below!

Thanks so much for reading, as always <3

Xoxo, Rae

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May 22, 2017

As One Door Closes…



Let’s put it out there; life is scary. And, it doesn’t get better as you go. If anything, you become more lost the further into adulthood you get. But, at least we’re all in the same boat. The downside is, we often slip into places we don’t want to be because they feel safe. It may be that we stick to a job without prospects because it’s comfortable. Or, we stay in the family home because we don’t want to take the leap and move out. Whatever the situation, getting stuck isn’t going to help anybody. It’s certainly not going to help you face your fears. So, you need to change your thinking. Have you ever heard of the saying ‘as one door closes, another one opens’? It’s time to put it to the test.

Know When to Shut the Door

The first step is, of course, closing the door behind you. It’s manners, right? Your parents probably taught you to this when you were tiny. But, shutting life’s doors is about more than just being polite. It isn’t as easy as turning the door handle, either. It’s important to recognize when a door needs shutting. If you’re feeling fed up, or uninspired with your life, the chances are there’s a flapping door somewhere. Finding it isn’t always easy, so take some time to consider the problem. If you’re unhappy in your job, you need to move onto the next chapter. Easier said than done, granted. But, it’s a step you need to take. If you’re arguing with your parents and feeling crowded by them, it may be a sign you need to move out. Once you start looking, you should be able to diagnose the problem quite fast. My boyfriend and I recently moved into our new place and it’s so much easier being on our own and not having to deal with other people’s’ schedules. 

Then Open a New One
Opening new doors is even harder. It’s not as simple as recognizing a problem. You have no idea what’s in your future. But, there is such a thing as creating opportunity. And, sometimes that’s what you need to do to get the right door open in front of you. Sometimes, things seem to work out. Other times, you need to give them a helping hand. If you want a new job, go out and find one. If you need to return to studying to do so, find a way. You may not have the money, but you could turn to something like Obama student loan forgiveness to see you through. It’s amazing what you can do when you set your mind to it. And, when you manage to get one door open, you may find that others follow.


Sit Back and Relax

We all need to give ourselves a pat on the back now and again. Sometimes, when we make changes, we’re so caught up in the process that we forget to enjoy them. Once you’ve changed your situation, make sure you take the time to remember how far you’ve come. And, if you ever find yourself in the same position, look back at this for inspiration.

I hope you enjoyed the post! Did it make you think of any doors you need to close, or maybe you’re now looking forward to opening a new one? Let me know in comments!

Thanks so much for reading, as always <3

Xoxo, Rae


May 4, 2017

What Have I Been Up To?


Have you ever been in a point of your life where you lose interest in pretty much everything? You’re always bored, always tired, always hungry? I have these stages quite often, which is due to my mental health – that’s why I took some time off from blogging to focus on myself and school. If you’re interested in what I’ve been up to, keep on reading!

I unplugged.

Social media consumes us. We become obsessed with it and feel lost or left behind without it. Social media also makes you feel alone and makes you jealous (well for me at least it does). I needed to unplug myself from social media so I could better myself and work on my self esteem, as well as how much time I spend with others. I also feel like social media drains me, since I’m so involved with other people’s profiles and my own. It was nice to unplug for a little bit, the feelings of FOMO went away after a few days and I actually became more productive. I suggest it if you’re in a funk.

I slept.

Sleeping is my escape, which may be a good thing or a bad thing. I forget about all of my problems and it’s just an easier way to relax. My boyfriend definitely says I sleep too much, but it makes me feel better.

I designed.

By that, I mean worked on my school projects. For my advanced graphic design class we just finished a personal branding project. Now, we have to make a program for our art exhibit on campus – I’ve had like 5 different variations and can’t seem to figure out what one I’m actually settled on but I think my newest design is a winner and my professor seemed to like it. For my package design class, I just finished up a 3D CD case for the 1975 – I struggled with this one so much. I had to spend so much money printing it and nearly every time it printed wrong unfortunately. It caused me a lot of frustration and at the end of the project I was so done with it, I just kind of said fuck it and handed in what I could (it was completed, don’t worry! just not as good as a final product that I hoped.) The next project for this class is to create a 3D promotional piece for a non-profit, I decided to contact A21 to see if they would be okay with me working on this project (also to give me experience with clients) and they agreed! They can’t use it the finished product though since they are undergoing a rebrand at the moment. I’m thinking of making a cool fold out mailer – let me know if you guys want to see some of my design stuff or if you want me to create a separate blog for my designs? For my typeface design class, I’m naturally creating a typeface. I’m creating a monospace uppercase type called Halcyon, it’s still in the works and I’m not sure if I’ll be able to make it downloadable, but I’ll let you know. I’m also in two art classes, but I mainly work in class for those assignments.

I went on vacation.

I just got back from a 4-night cruise with Royal Caribbean. We left Miami, went to Key West, sailed for a day, stopped at Nassau in the Bahamas then headed back to Miami. If you’re interested in hearing all about my cruise, let me know so I can get that post up for you (with lots of pictures!)

I learned a lot.

About myself, and about others. I’ll just leave it at that. 🙂

I’m slowly getting my motivation back to get back into the swing of things, I’m also trying not to rush it and just letting it come naturally.

I hope you enjoyed the post and that you didn’t miss me too much! What kinds of posts do you want to see next? Let me know!

Thanks so much for reading, as always <3

Xoxo, Rae

March 17, 2017