(I’m a huge GOT fan, so I had to).
Shame is a horrible word, isn’t it? In cases where it is merited, it means you’ve done something wrong, and would rather not be reminded. In the many cases where it happens without merit, you’re being made to feel something awful for a reason you can’t control. It’s one of those things our minds decide to do to us because they think we don’t feel bad enough.
Don’t get me wrong; there are times when shame is appropriate, and even just the thought of it can stop us doing something awful. But thanks to certain sections of the media the idea of shame has grown into something different.
“Celebrity puts on a few pounds – read about their bikini shame.” “The Shame Of Well Known Soap Star As They Start Dating Again Two Weeks After Split.” Situations which are not at all shameful are being used to make people feel bad. Even if the person crying “shame” has no idea what the intricacies of the situation are. And it’s insidious enough to make us feel ashamed of ourselves.
My Weight Loss Shame
It is a very rare thing to not have some fluctuation in your weight from time to time. We’ve all been in the situation where we are busy and lean more on fast food than on eating right. So we put on a few pounds, and it’s not the end of the world. But when you weigh yourself or look in the mirror, you see it, and you feel ashamed.
Take that shame and turn it into positive action. Buy salads and fresh veggies and use it as the drive you need to get you into the gym. Just by eating right again that weight will come off. It’s not something to be ashamed about anyway – it’s just inconvenient. Grab a gym buddy or have someone go along with you for the journey, I know that it can be tough doing it alone – but I believe in you 🙂 and hey, you don’t have to lose the weight if you don’t want to, OWN YOUR BODY!
I’m Ashamed To Smile
Some people are fortunate enough to have teeth that always look perfect. Even some people who always seem to have a black coffee, red wine or cigarette in one hand somehow manage it. But sometimes, even when you’ve behaved yourself (much better than they have), you get a chipped tooth. Or a wisdom tooth starts pushing through. All of sudden, you want to put your hand quickly your mouth at all times.
You don’t want to smile; you’re afraid to even laugh. What do you do? As soon as possible, you get to a dentist like Broadway Dental or similar. With corrective action done quickly enough, you’ll look and feel better.
If you think that braces or whitening treatments won’t make you feel better about your smile, embrace what you have. My friend McKenzie has the cutest gap in between her front teeth and she hates it, but I love it. I think it adds to her personality and character.
My Personal Shame
Things happen in our personal life from time to time, and to take a cue from the media means to be embarrassed by them. Pretty much anyone who has ever socialized has done one of these things. You drink too much and have an argument with someone. You date someone who turns out to be less of a decent person than they seemed. You wake up with a hangover and don’t know what you did last night.
These situations can easily make us ashamed. They’re certainly not things we would want to repeat. But they’re also things that the people writing those tabloid stories have done time and again. You shouldn’t feel ashamed.
Don’t let shame dictate what you do in life. If you do, all that ever happens is, when you feel depressed, it will dominate how you feel. Let positivity dictate things instead.
If you’re ever doubting yourself, turn it around with positive affirmations. Tell yourself that you love yourself everyday and that you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to.
Happiness depends upon ourselves – so own what you got.
I hope you enjoyed the post and that it will point you in the right direction in the future!
Thanks for reading, as always <3